What day of the week am I?

The management course that I have been attending is a very reflective one. It is forcing very busy HODs to take a step back and reflect not only what they have done for the department but also in their lives. This one particular charismatic lecturer flashed a slide and asked us what day of the week we belonged to. Meaning that 10 years old meant monday and 70 and above meant sunday.

I am therefore at Wednesday morning because I have just turned 30. The more important question she asked though was "Taking into account the day you are in, what have you done with your life?"

That question is loaded with meaning. And I asked myself many questions and came to the realisation about many things in the process of reflecting deeply about this question.

• I am a mother but am I a good mother? Will I challenge my daughter to greater heights while loving her unconditionally. Will I teach her values of independence, self sufficiency, problem solving and higher order thinking skills so that she will not be a spoiled little brat who can't do anything for herself?

• Will I teach her to love and love well - people who are fortunate, unfortunate, handicapped and different?

• Will I empower her with self esteem so she does not have to make fun of people, make comments about others or put people down so that she can feel better about herself?
  

Other observations

• All change is constant - it may not be good all the time - but it is experience that helps you grow. Staying stuck in the same mundane routine year in and year out is equivalent to a death sentence for me. I think that when you get used to something it becomes a bad habit, you label it a tradition and get bitter at anyone who does not want to partake in these traditions and habits.
  
• Travel, new friends, new hobbies, new books, new ways of looking at things - that is the way I want my life to be. Being obsessed with the same circle of people and never expanding your horizons means that you become clingy and that becomes a self - fulfilling prophecy as no one can stand a clingy person who is bitter and eventually you will be all alone.
  
• making it a point to do something different every week. To spend time with my family because I adore them but to also move out of one's comfort zone so that i can teach my daughter the importance of being happy for yourself and not relying on anyone else to do so.
  

It's a new year

My last blog was eons ago! Thanks to our internet being down, being on holiday and christmas, I have not even looked at the computer! But its a new year (2007!), I'm back at school and was thinking about my new year resolutions. Contrary to popular belief that we never stick to what we promise, I am proud to say that I always do. Last year I promised to save money every month which I did. Unfortunately I blew it all away on shopping in December!

Here are my resolutions for the year:

1. Be the best momma possible to my baby girls caitlin and pepper!

2. Chucking out negative people from my life.

3. Chucking out sly and selfish people from my life who:

a. Wait for you to plan everything and never take the first step to do anything.

b. Never call you unless you call them first.

c. Never invite you to their parties unless you invite them first.

d. Pretend to be all chummy and friendly but who actually have low self esteem and no confidence so they sneak glances at you, the relationships that you have with the people around you and are secretly jealous of your life.

e. Treat my parents with disrespect by ignoring how kind and inviting they have been to them over the years. (that is the ultimate deal breaker for me)

f. Who latch on to your friends because they can't keep their own.

g. Who have not enough work to do and spend their time obsessing about other people. I mean really.. get a life already! No one cares and we are all laughing at you when we do find the 1 minute of our time to make fun of you.

So thats it! 2007 is going to be a "clean" year for me. And for those who think I should not have written this as I have my own faults as well, to you I say...I have my husband, my daughter, my family and my job so I don't give a damn what you think! (I really don't)